If you are feeling unhappy, out of control or just plain miserable there may be some specific reasons you are avoiding asking for help.
Some of the reasons people avoid getting the help they need are that they think they can handle it themselves, or that it will pass. I would ask those people, “How long have you been waiting for that to happen?” Another reason people avoid seeking help is because they don’t know where to go or what kind of help is right or most effective. Often people seek help from their doctor who prescribes medication to try to relieve the discomfort of their suffering but they don’t want to take medication. The truth, that is difficult sometimes to grasp, is that we all have all the power we need to help ourselves. Regardless of what kind of help one seeks, empowering you to find your own strength and potential to heal is the ultimate goal.
Some believe that no one will understand or that nothing will change. Others fear appearing weak or afraid to admit they feel out of control. When the situation seems unmanageable or hopeless, the belief is often that suffering is the only option. Because they can’t imagine a solution or envision the process of healing, they stay stuck and paralyzed by the fear of the unknown.
Clients have often told me that they felt desperate and out of control, and that I was their last hope. Many people don’t realize that although they cannot control the people around them, or control what situations occur, they have complete control over the way they allow things to affect them, and how they respond. The process of empowering can make the difference between being a victim and being in control of one’s own life.
I always make it clear to my clients that I cannot change their lives or their situation but I can help them to change the way they feel about it or the way they perceive it. Because all hypnosis is self-hypnosis, once you learn to control and change negative thoughts, you can begin to change your feelings.
I have seen clients who wanted to let go of bad relationships or heal from a break up, as well as those who just work in a toxic environment and feel powerless on their job. The range of powerlessness I have encountered with my clients is vast but the approach is always based on helping to neutralize negative feelings such as anger, fear and sadness to allow for moving forward to a happier life. Hypnosis is not magic and often several sessions are required for the best results. So although hypnosis is a very effective and powerful tool that anyone can benefit from, it is still often viewed as a last resort.
So your choice is simple: continue to experience negative feelings or take control of your situation and confront your issues for a, happier, less stressful life.