Danger is Real, Fear is Optional

We all have fears. Fear is defined as: “An unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Whether real or imagined, the body responds the same.” When the body reacts to a perception of danger, the physical reactions include: sweaty palms, tightening of the stomach, breathing fast, and a pounding heart. It is unpleasant at best, but it can lead to chronic stress and unhealthy results. In fact, often it is not the object of the fear that is debilitating; it is the fear of feeling those uncomfortable feelings that hold us back. In the case of a fear of public speaking it is not the people that are causing the fear, it is the sweaty palms, pounding heart, and the scary thoughts that are creating the problem. The fear is usually the result of a previous experience that created an imprint in the mind that is ‘triggered’ when a similar experience is imminent. Logically, the previous experience is over and you survived. There is no reason to have fear presently, but your unconscious mind doesn’t know that. Hypnosis is the most effective way to eliminate those fears.

The most common fears include the fear of failing, fear of being alone; fear of rejection, fear of death, fear of humiliation, and the list is goes on. People come to me to eliminate fears that are irrational because they are making their life miserable. I have helped clients eliminate the fear of driving on highways, fear of heights, fear of needles, fear of public speaking, and the list goes on.

If you are experiencing fears, you are not alone. Interestingly, I learned in my training that we are only born with two fears; the fear of loud noises and the fear of falling. All other fears had to be learned. Anything learned, can be unlearned. One of my clients came to me because he had a fear of death. In hypnosis he was able to recall that when he was six months old he was very sick and his parents were afraid he was going to die. I was able to easily eliminate that fear by telling that part of him that he is now 50 years old and very healthy. When he emerged from hypnosis the fear was gone and he was surprised by the cause of the fear and how easily it was eliminated. Because of the nature of the unconscious mind, fears remain until they are replaced with another feeling or thought. Hypnosis is the most effective way to release those irrational fears from the past of things you have already survived.

Most of us understand that it is easy to be traumatized by an event. We expect that trauma to remain forever and sometimes resort to medication to eliminate the unwanted physical effects that the fear creates. A child that burned themselves on a hot pot learns that the pot is not a danger, even when it is hot, as long as care is used when near it or handling it.  Traumas from the past can be reframed to allow the mind to retain the lesson while eliminating the fear.  If we understand that we can be easily traumatized, it is easy to understand that we can be un-traumatized as well.

Many of our fears are designed to protect us from danger. Although you cannot control the world, you can control the way you allow it to affect you.